There are a lot of difficult things associated with being a divorced parent and having to share your time with your child.
This week I’m dealing with a difficult one. Mini Me is off this week to Disneyland with her dad. This is not the first time she had gone with him and her dad’s family to Florida and to Disney. It was really hard the first time to not be with my child when she got to experience it for the first time. It is still hard this time.
I find myself walking a fine line. I am very happy for her because I know she will have a wonderful time and as a parent her happiness comes first and foremost. But I am also sad for myself because I haven’t been able to take her myself. I want so badly to be able to go and share that experience with her. I know that the time will come and we will eventually be able to do it but money has been so tight lately it has been very disheartening to be unable to do it.
Little Miss Geek is also going to Disney with the female who gave birth to her so the Geek is also experiencing this same sense of pain and disappointment. We are trying to remind ourselves that we the time comes and we also get to make the trip they will still love it and still have a great time. In fact, it might even be better because they are friend in addition to sisters and it is always more fun to have friends. Plus we still have the Baby Geek and his joy will be for the first and only with us.
But it still sucks.
I’m sorry you both are feeling that way. But you’re right, when you are able to go with them both and baby geek, it will be extra special!
Plus, she knows how much you love her and I’m sure she has a ton of wonderful memories of things she has done with you. She’ll hold on to those as well growing up
Thanks. It is hard but we try to make the best out of the situation and give them memories that are meaningful. I remind myself that sometimes, it’s the little things that mean the most.
I can empathize with you. My oldest daughter is from a previous relationship and sharing her on holidays and special days and vacations was hard. First experiences are hard…. while she will be experiencing Disney with her dad and his family, the best part about it is that when you DO get to take her, she will be excited to show you everything she did! You can crown her as the “official tour guide” of your vacation! That will make her smile and boost her confidence, AND get you to see the best, and worst, part of her trip. I am sure she will miss you. My daughter constantly spoke of me when she was with her father and I never knew until he told me years later, that he had to “compete” with me… SO .. hang in there. We feel guilty about what we cannot do at times and try to make the best of divorce situations, but really, she’ll be thinking and missing you!
That is a great idea! I know that she missed me when they took her before. She called me three times during the trip and told me how much she wished I was with her. Thank you.